October 22nd, 2018 – Easy Ways to Support a New Mother is a personal reflection on my own motherhood journey that started 30 years ago.
30 years ago today, I become a mother for the very first time. At 20 years old I was scared to death. How was I going to take care of this tiny human that God had gifted to me and my husband?
How Can You Support a New Mother
As we all know babies don’t come with instruction books, but moms come with instincts. Luckily, I had some experience under my belt that helped me figure out what to do. I had a sister and brother that were 13 years younger than me. I had a hand in helping my single mother with them, so changing diapers was something I definitely knew how to do. Plus, I had worked in the childcare field for years before and after my son was born and that was a great support. My base knowledge of babies was pretty good.
One thing I lacked was support. My mom was 750 miles away. My mother-in-law was still recovering from a life-threatening accident, and most of my friends were still in college. In honor of 30 years of being a mom, I decided to I poll a few mothers I know and find out what they thought was the best way to support a new mother.
One of the overwhelming responses was meal support. New moms need to eat a well-rounded healthy diet to keep up their energy and milk supply.
Lori, from A Cowboy’s Wife suggested laundry help and prepared meals. Babies make messes and a meal you can just heat up is always fabulous.
Nichole, from Mommy Needs a Bottle and Constance from Cosmopolitan Cornbread thought a Meal Train was a great idea. Meal deliveries are scheduled and organized making it a great way to support a new mother.
Trisha, from a Salty Side Dish suggested gift cards. Whether it’s from a restaurant or a grocery store, having food delivered to your door would be a huge help.
Ashley from Ashely Brooke Nicholas shared that her mother-in-law brought groceries and prepared foods and it was a huge blessing.
Jennifer from Sweet T Makes Three likes the idea of Freezer Meals. No explanation needed!
Why You Should Support a New Mother
Why not? If you have the means to support a new mother, just do it. When my son was born, I was afraid to ask for help. I wanted to prove to everyone I could handle it all on my own. My husband was working three to midnight, and I was alone a lot. Boyd do I wish there would have been more support. If I had known about a mom’s group or WIC my journey as a first time mom would have been just a bit easier. Boy was I wrong to think as a first time mom I could do it all.
A few moms I asked thought an extra pair of hands would have been a great way to support a new mother.
Darcy from DarcyandBrian shared that an extra pair of hands to hold a baby while she showered or napped would be a great gift.
Kuleen from Midlife Mess thought someone to help clean the house is a great support. Of course, new moms are exhausted and should spend time snuggling babies, not doing cleaning chores.
Diana from Nanny to Mommy needed support from real people. Someone to show up and just be there. Sometimes we avoid visiting new moms, but call ahead and stop by if she needs to see another human that isn’t depending on her for food and comfort.
More Ideas to Support a New Mother
- Lawn Care suggested by Marla from Just Marla
- Errands and Shopping suggested by Brett from This Mama Loves
- Sibling Care suggested by Jamie from Toys in the Dryer
- Date Night suggested by Becky from Lil Burghers. What a fabulous idea! Parenting is hard on mom and dad!
- Amazon Gift cards were a must for Karen from 3 Garnets & 2 Sapphires. You can get all of your non-perishables and baby goods delivered to the door!
- Post Partum Doula – I think this would be priceless!
- Diaper Genie was the best gift ever according to Lauren from Fountain of 30.
It’s no surprise that all of the suggestions shared are practical and helpful. These ladies are all moms and know what a new mother needs!
My son has grown into a pretty good adult. He has a fabulous wife, a good job, and a mini farm of pets. I think that is proof enough we’ve done something right. Today on my son’s 30th birthday, I sent him a text at exactly his time of birth. I also thanked him for being our test subject and making us proud and happy parents.
Take a look at these articles that may spark more creative ways for you to support a new mother.
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I hope these ideas give you some practical ideas that will actually help support a new mother in your life.