Should your husband wear a wedding ring?
There’s this funny thing about my husband. We have been married for 28 (almost 29) years and he has only ever had a wedding ring on his finger twice. Once on the day we got married. Once on the day after we got married at our wedding reception. Apparently, he almost lost it on the wedding day. He left it on the sink in a public restroom and had to back track to find out. He only admitted that juicy information, when we talked about this post.
Should Your Husband Wear a Wedding Ring?
Something weird happened to my husband last month. He went to work as usual, but came home a different person. Our day seemed to be moving along as normal. We were out for an evening walk, talking about our day and my husband told me a story about a nice Italian gentleman he met that day. My husband repairs dish machines in food establishments so he gets to talk to a diverse group of people daily. This nice Italian gentlemen was asking him about his job and his family. The gentleman noticed my husband wasn’t wearing a wedding ring and asked him about it. My husband told him at his previous job he couldn’t wear a wedding ring and has just never worn one. My husband left that previous job six months ago. He worked at that job for 29 years, thus the no ring for our entire marriage.
My husband not wearing a ring has never bothered me. Let me say though, I have never even taken my wedding ring off my finger, other than for cleaning or repair, since the day we got married. I never paid attention to my husband’s bare ring finger until his recollection of his work day. Well, apparently the nice Italian gentleman had plenty to say about the situation.
My husband received a good “talking to” from the nice Italian gentleman. The gentleman was appalled. He told my husband he “must wear a wedding ring out of respect for your marriage.” I sort of chuckled and asked my husband if he wanted to wear a wedding ring. He thought about it for a few minutes and said, “I guess, so.”
After our walk, I went to my jewelry box to retrieve the plain gold band that was my husband’s wedding ring. We bought that ring at a department store in 1988 for $40. The ring was nowhere to be found. Sometime over the years it had been lost. Like I said before, neither of us has thought twice about it since that 10th day of June in 1988.
Now we are on the hunt for a new wedding ring. My husband has been looking at the Titanium and Tungsten rings. He narrowed it down to three styles. We took a vote on the Just 2 Sisters Facebook page and the decision has been made. He will now be sporting his new wedding ring.
We have one last hurdle to jump. The size. My husband has no idea what size ring he wears. Remember, he hasn’t worn a ring for over 28 years. The Titanium ring cannot be resized so we have to get it right. Luckily our daughter-in-law has a ring sizer. As soon as my husband gets the correct size the ring will be ordered.
Should Your Husband Wear a Wedding Ring?
So what do you think? Should your husband wear a wedding ring?
It’s funny how the opinion of strangers can make an impact on your life. A ring is a symbol that my husband and I hadn’t thought much about until that nice Italian gentleman brought it to his attention.
A wedding ring for a husband or wife, should be a personal decision. No one needs to tell you how or why you should wear a ring. This is why I quizzed my husband to make sure he actually wanted to wear a wedding ring. I didn’t want him to start wearing a ring because that nice Italian man scolded him.
The ring doesn’t mean as much to us, as the love we share. A symbol is just a symbol. It’s not a necessity in our opinion.
Everyone needs to do the things in their marriage that work for the couple. Worrying about what other couples are doing isn’t good for a healthy marriage. You need to make your own path and stick together. That’s what has made our marriage work all these years!
Does your husband wear a wedding ring? Which style?
My husband has proudly been sporting his new wedding ring for two weeks. We actually had to reorder it twice to get the correct size. Those darn ring sizers aren’t as accurate as you think!
Even if he doesn’t wear a wedding ring, I still love him more and more each day!
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